When people don’t know something or don’t understand it, they are usually afraid of it or hateful or contemptuous. Mom, Dallas Fowler has had a hands on experience with this in a check-out line at her local Walmart.
Her son Jameus age 2 wanted some attention, so doing what any mom would do, she picked him up and gave him a quick hug. While doing so the boy’s shirt lifted up revealing his colostomy bags and that is when the customer behind her had a fit…
Her little boy has to have this and his colostomy bags cover his stomas and collect the waste his body expels. Because Jameus has Hirschsprung’s disease, the little boy has been forced to undergo more than 20 surgeries with more scheduled in the future.
Well the customer thought the sight of the boy’s colostomy bags was horrid. So she shrieked and yelled at her to cover up her “repulsive” boy. Then she demanded to know why Jameus was disfigured, like it was any of her business…
The mom trying to be calm told the woman he had the colostomy bags because “his colon didn’t finish forming so he needed them.”
But the customer still thought the boy was disgusting and wasn’t afraid to say it to the mother’s face and was saying things to other people she could clearly hear. So the mom walked to another checkout line where people were not so judgmental.
Fowler decided to share her experience with the ignorant woman with her friends on Facebook.
She wrote: “Tonight, we were in Walmart standing in a long line waiting to check out. My sweet 2-year-old wanted me to hold him. As I picked him up out of the cart, his shirt came up exposing his two stomas and bags on his stomach. Typically, I have a onesie underneath his shirt but tonight I just got him dressed quickly to run to the store. The onesie helps to keep his bags in one place and makes it harder for him to tug and pull them off.
“There was an older woman in line behind me who caught a glimpse and shrieked a little before she said to me “why in the world would you let someone do that to him?”
“I turned around speechless and just looked at her before she continued and asked why he had them. I gave her the short version and basically said “his colon didn’t finish forming so he needed them.” I left out that he had a rare disease called Hirschsprung’s disease because I was a little annoyed from her first statement. She then goes “well I am sorry but I just think that is so ‘repulsing’, can you please keep his shirt down?” At this point I just wanted to shake this woman and scream “what is wrong with you?!” But instead, I told her to have a good night and went to another line.”
“See what that woman doesn’t understand is, when my son is healthy, he is no different than any other 2 year old. He runs, plays, swims and goes to daycare. When he’s healthy, you wouldn’t be able to look at him and know he’s had over 20 surgeries and procedures. You wouldn’t know that he’s got more ahead in his future. You wouldn’t know he gets painful home dilation and irrigation treatments twice a day every day. You wouldn’t know that every day a catheter is put into his stoma to “feed” it stool twice a day in the hopes of growing his colon. He’s my heart. He is so funny, and full of personality. He is sweet and loving and kind but also a little ball of fire.”
“Please be kind and choose your words wisely, especially should you choose to comment about something that is none of your business. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, and my son is winning his.”
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